Flutterby™! : Blogging Blow Up 2005-10-29 01:45:57.43885+00

Blogging Blow Up

2005-10-29 01:45:57.43885+00 by meuon 4 comments

$SigOther1 just got ranted on from $SigOther1->Kid2 because $SigOther1 said things and mentioned $SigOther1->Kid2 and some past history involving $SigOther1->ExSpouse1 and $SigOther1->Kid1 as well as $SigOther1->Kid2 and past decisions made regarding the IRS and who got deductions for which kid for when.. and it's October (way past April 15th..) and and.. and..

So now $SigOther1 is now going to remove things on her blog.. when what I fear is that $SigOther1->ExSpouse1 is who reads $SigOther1's blog and got upset so still playing mind games with the chilluns, triggers $SigOther1->Kid2 to create havoc and ask to be removed from $SigOther1's blog.

Geez.. I though a lot of the fun of Blogging was you could "within slander and defemation restraints" say anything you wanted. Legally, probably. But blood and family peace is much more powerful than the 1st Amendment.

The real issue is $SigOther1->ExSpouse1 really needs to move on with his life, and $SigOther1->Kid2 needs to realize she's pretty incredible and be comfortable with who she is and not worry about what her Mom blogs about her. Her Mom loves her, and would never intentionally hurt her.

Me? I got called a "loose cannon" the other day by some yuppie dot.com wannabe Chatt Tech Council suits. I'm thinking it may be time to stop being so restrained personally and professionally.

My apologies to the Flutterbarians to whom this Jerry Springer Soap Opera means nothing.. and thank you Dan for a SoapBox that I know the affected parties monitor for my rants and ravings.... They are the ones that need to Download A Life.

Yes... Blogging is supposed to be open "within slander and defemation restraints" but it isn't. I guess some things are best unsaid - left to fester and rot - eventually turning to cancer...

What I'm gradually coming to as I watch people like Columbine close off their content behind registration-only walls and Michael Kelley start a new site that's somewhat disconnected from his old one, and my own "other place", is that we're finally starting to realize that blogging isn't lunch with a circle of friends.

We're publishing stuff on the net, and as much as we'd like to think that it's a dialogue, it's not. Putting up an entry in a weblog is a statement, not a dialogue, and it invites discussion from people who we wouldn't think of addressing that same thing to individually. And I think I'm conscious of that because I've recently had experiences with a few people who don't respect some of those boundaries of discussion in their in-person interrelations, and so I'm more aware of it right now, but when we sit across from each other at a table we have a much more bounded idea of who a discussion is supposed to involve, who it's supposed to be for. When we're blogging, we often think about the person we'd like to have sitting across the table from us as an audience, but the reality is that we're having that discussion with a megaphone from across the plaza.

#Comment Re: made: 2005-11-01 15:54:39.384952+00 by: Nancy [edit history]

I wouldn't mind if a weblog turned into a dialog, and we've all seen it happen. What I mind is the immature reaction it can sometimes spawn -- sort of an evil version of "Susy, go tell Johnnie I like-like him." Combine that with the fact that anonymity, even theoretical anonymity, brings out the worst in people, and you have a potential mess. And, lord, I hadn't even thought about throwing into the mix persons who have no respect for in-person interrelational boundaries -- egads! It's a firestorm!! I have yet to suffer physically (or even emotionally) from cyber burn, so all is well ;-)

Maybe the bottom line is that a rose is a rose is a rose (and a jerk is a jerk is a jerk), whether in-person, on-line or wherever. Some venues just heighten rosyness and jerkiness?

nancy...the kid should be happy to have a cool mom like you...and the EX needs to get a life that does not include lurking around on your blog and getting mad. what a sicko jerk. my favorite thought, "just consider the source".

by the way, we love the wedding photo book that you put togetber for me and andy. life has become even more interesting with this big man in my life. mike took some really nice pictures :> thanks guys.